A man has been slammed for donating his sperm behind his wife’s back to earn some extra money. He signed up to be a sperm donor when he was in college for ‘easy money’ and to help struggling couples bring children into the world.
But he decided to stop his donations after meeting his now-wife in his final year of school – or so he thought. Taking to Reddit, he said: “I met my wife in my last year – we have been married for about six years and I don’t donate anymore.
“We have our own children and everything is OK but a couple of years ago we went through a rough patch and I donated again to earn some money. I didn’t really tell her because I didn’t see it as a big deal and it wasn’t a lot – I got about $150 (£114) to tide us over for the week and we went on about our business. I forgot about it.”
But when out with friends who have been struggling to conceive, the conversation popped up and he decided to share word about his college donations. “I brought up that I used to be a donor and my wife was more shocked than I expected her to be,” he added.
“She looked visibly shaken but moved on quickly. When we got home, she brought it up again and I explained the story and how I forgot about it over time and didn’t see it as a big deal and she got quite upset saying I might have potential children I don’t know about.
“I don’t have children I don’t know about because the only children I have are with her but she is insisting this is some form of betrayal almost? Maybe I should have told her? I am definitely feeling like a major a***hole right now.”
Wanting to know whether he was wrong to keep his donations from his wife, he has taken to Reddit to ask users for their thoughts. Commenting on his post, one user said: “You didn’t betray your wife by donating sperm before you met her. But you know you should have at least discussed it with her while you were married or you wouldn’t have phrased it as “didn’t really tell her.”
Another user added: “If you are hard up for cash donate your plasma. No chance it will come back to haunt you and you are still helping people in need.” A third user said: “With all the technology it would be easy for any biological kids to locate you. Who wants to be blindsided by that?”