Former Partygoer Who Slept With 1,000 Women Speaks Out About Mental Health Struggles
UK — Benny James, a 31-year-old content creator from Croydon, has revealed that his former lifestyle — marked by casual s€x, substance use, and constant social media activity left him struggling with anxiety and depression.
Over a ten-year period, James sought attention and validation through regular clubbing and online engagement, frequently meeting strangers via X and Instagram.
“With me, my friends and family saw me as ‘Jack the lad’—going out, having fun. But deep down, it was affecting me without me knowing, until I hit rock bottom,” he told his followers.
He estimates that he engaged in s€xu@l activity with more than 1,000 women during that time, many of whom he met spontaneously.
What initially appeared to be “just a bit of fun” eventually became a means of escaping a deeper discomfort with himself. “I now realise I did not like being with myself, and that was the problem,” he said.
James admitted that the excitement of gaining popularity and earning money through a high-profile lifestyle came at a steep emotional cost.
“Having the buzz around you and making money is not worth it in the long run,” he warned.
According to Ladbible.com, James frequently relied on alcohol and drugs in an attempt to manage symptoms of anxiety and depression.
He described how severe the situation became, stating, “I suffered from bad anxiety and depression, and I did not want to leave the house.”
James has since left that lifestyle behind. He is currently in a committed relationship and now devotes his time to raising awareness about mental health.
Offering support to others, he wrote on Instagram:
“To anyone suffering with mental health, just remember you are an absolute legend, because nothing is scarier than battling your own mind every single day. Do not ever give up. Speak up and get the help you need.”
As part of his recovery, James launched the ‘No More Waiting’ campaign, which advocates for increased investment in mental health services across the United Kingdom.
He also discussed the difficulty of transitioning from a life driven by attention to one centred around family values.
“I am not one of those stereotypical Andrew Tate kind of men. So for me, if you want to have fun, have fun. But when you are so used to having that attention and consider trying for a family life, it is completely different. And I think a lot of people cannot handle that,” he said.
Despite the personal challenges, James stated that he is now in a healthier and more stable place both mentally and emotionally.
“I have found myself in a good place. Now that I promote mental health content, I receive a lot of love back from it,” said James.
