Conversation Saves Teens
Zimbabwe is grappling with a disturbing trend of children as young as 12 taking their own lives, leaving families and communities shattered. The recent case of a Form One pupil in Masvingo who committed suicide has sparked outrage and raised concerns about the mental health of the nation’s youth.
In an exclusive interview with AfroGazette News, local parents shared their insights, stressing the importance of open communication in building strong relationships and preventing teenage tragedies.
Mrs. Matidaishe Moyo, a concerned parent, emphasizes the importance of creating a safe space for children to open up. “Communication is the foundation of our relationship with our children. We must listen actively and empathetically, without judgment or criticism. This helps us understand our children’s perspectives, validate their emotions, and build trust.”
Moyo also highlights the importance of being approachable and non-judgmental. “Our children should feel comfortable sharing their thoughts and feelings with us, without fear of criticism or punishment. We should ask open-ended questions, listen attentively to their responses, and provide guidance and support.”
She recalls a recent incident where her child opened up about bullying at school. “If I had not created a safe space for my child to talk, she might have suffered in silence,” says Moyo.
Mrs. Ratidzo Mpofu notes that gentle correction is key. “Some parents say harsh words to their children when they misbehave, such as ‘you are useless’ or ‘I wish I had never had you.’ Such words are harmful. Instead of scolding,sit down and talk with them nicely, exploring the advantages and disadvantages of such misbehavior.”
She adds,”I discipline my children, but I also make sure to show love to them afterwards.”
Mr. Pathisani Ndoro, a father of three, pointed out the importance of prioritizing time with children, even in busy schedules. “Make time for your children every day, even if it’s just 30 minutes. It is crucial to connect and show interest in their lives.”
Tonderai Toney Kanongora, Director and Founder of Counselling Hub, emphasizes the importance of establishing common ground and fostering positive relationships to encourage open communication between parents and teens.
“Parents need to create a mutual and loving relationship with their kids, and it becomes easy for the kids to open up. It is an error to expect kids to open up about their struggles as long as we do not have anything in common.”
Kanongora cautions parents to closely monitor their children’s use of gadgets like cellphones and laptops, as unchecked access can lead to harmful consequences, including substance abuse and unhealthy relationships.
“Parents must keep a close eye on their kids’ resource usage to prevent self-harm.”
Counsellor Kanongora stresses the need for prompt intervention to address teenage mental health concerns.”Seek professional help immediately if you notice signs of struggle, anxiety, or depression in your teen. As a counselor, I will guide them in identifying solutions to overcome their challenges.”
AfroGazette News reached out to the Director of Childline for comment, unfortunately, it did not go through.
